I work as a gymnastics coach for children ages three to
thirteen. I love my job for many reasons, but one of the most rewarding perks
is the talks I get to have with my girls about body image. These girls come to
class every day in leotards and surround themselves with other girls of all
shapes and sizes, without diminishing their self-esteem. However, every now and
then, an issue presents itself, and I get to have a come to Jesus talk with them.
Most recently, a 6-year-old was discussing buying her first
bikini, when her older and larger classmate said she wanted one, too. The
6-year-old, with a catty raised eyebrow, retorted, “No, only skinny people can
wear bikinis.” That didn’t go over so well with me. We halted all stretches as
I explained to the girls that every body is a bikini body, and people of all
shapes, sizes, ages, and even genders can wear bikinis if it makes them happy. I
like to think I sparked at least a tiny bit of body confidence that day.
I have also dealt with girls who openly compare themselves
to the others; girls who are older, taller, with bigger hips. These are the
girls I identify with. I started gymnastics way too late in the game as a
preteen. With no previous experience, I was a level one, learning how to do
somersaults with a class of 5-year-olds. Being the biggest girl in the class is
hard, especially when the instructor can flip everyone around except you.
Thankfully, having that background taught me how to
relate to those girls in my class. I know what it’s like to be the biggest girl
in the class. I know how it feels to look at all the girls in tiny
leotards while I pull soffee shorts up over mine. Being able to wipe tears from
their faces and hearing them laugh as I explain how goofy I must have looked
compared to my classmates is one of the best parts of my job.
As much as I see
these girls tackle body confidence every day, I still struggle. I love my body,
and I’m comfortable in my own skin, but there will always be parts of me that I
wish I could change. And that’s fine! I was given a skinny body with a high
metabolism and I took it for granted. I’ve always eaten whatever I wanted, and
one day that metabolism caught up with me. I like being a little thicker than I used to be, as frustrating as swimsuit or jean shopping is.
But one part of me that I have never, ever been comfortable
with is my thighs. As soon as I put on my first pair of shorts for the summer,
I’m immediately ready for snow to start falling. I have cellulite, and it's probably one of the most embarrassing features to have in today’s society. Celebrities
have their beach vacation pictures blown up to emphasize the dimples on their
thighs. College girls rush to Target to buy skin-firming creams and
cellulite-reducing scrubs. It’s a sickness.
To help fight this hatred of my legs, and to instill a new
sense of confidence, I collaborated with a local photographer to do a lingerie photo-shoot. And while it was great, and did exactly what it was designed to do
in terms of confidence, I can’t take nearly naked pictures every day, and after a while
my self-love battery needs a recharge.
Because I’m a gymnastics instructor, I work in a large gym
with an entire wall of mirrors, and I’m surrounded by other instructors my age.
Our uniforms are simple, just a staff t-shirt and athletic bottoms. It gets
hot, and the desire to wear shorts is constant, but when I’m surrounded by my
athletic-trainer, dance-major, and level-7-gymnast peers in shorts, and their
perfectly sculpted legs, I decide that leggings are my best option.
But then one day in class, I noticed something strange. As I
helped one of my younger girls fold into a backbend, I notice her legs dimpled
up. I looked over and saw another girl sitting criss-cross applesauce; her legs
had cellulite too. It was on every girl. These were 6-year-olds who have been
in gymnastics for years. They were athletic, skinny, and growing more muscles
every day—and they had the same cellulite that I had been killing myself over.
That’s when I realized how stupid it is to be embarrassed by
it. Cellulite is a natural thing. From that point on, I noticed that every
single person around me had it. Girls sitting in class, other gymnastics
instructors, the girl next to me at the barre in ballet. It was so freeing to no
longer worry about how I sit, or what angle to stand at while talking to
someone. We’ve realized that fat is beautiful, we understand that stretch marks
are stripes to be earned—why are we still treating cellulite like a deformity?